Getting Paid for playing … (Part II)

As I promised here is the second part for my blog about the importance of playing and this quote: ‘A sensitive person gets paid for playing. That’s the art of Life.’ Here is the part I  of this post if you haven’t read it yet.

So as I said in the previous post there are some traps that are disguised as play. We can find them everywhere (for some reason they are more common in wealthy countries)

Most of the time when people are talking about ‘play’, they say it in a transactional way. ‘Let’s play so we can be more creative’, ‘play is good because it releases X hormone’ or ‘play to connect with your family’. And not only with play but with other activities too, for example dancing to be social, reading to be smarter, or even being nice to people to get something in return. I’m not saying that it is bad to try to be more creative or it is wrong playing with your family so you can connect with them. But what I’m suggesting is the actual process of playing as an end of itself, not as a mean.

Being immersed and really connected with what we do (some experts call it ‘flow’ (check this book here)). When we are in this state of flow, we are happier, less stressed, we lose track of time for a few moments, and for one instance we seem to be at ease. So what if instead of playing so we can connect with our families we played to really enjoy the process. So when the time comes, we are so engaged in the game and it’s so easy to play and have fun that as a consequence, we connect more with our family, not because our ultimate goal was to get closer with them but simply because we enjoyed the game itself.

Alan Watts – Work as Play

And if you really think about it… What is the purpose of playing? It is not to win the game and be the best. The same as in music, it is not about reaching the last note the fastest, it is about the process of playing. Enjoy the process of playing not because you will get something but simply because it’s fun

How can we say ‘enjoy the moment’ if we can’t even enjoy what we do? and how are we going to enjoy what we do if we always want to get something in the future? There is always going to be another song to dance to, a new game to play, some extra work to do. 

So it’s always good to remember that we have a limited amount of moves, so we might just enjoy it because one day we will reach the end and the game will be over.

Thanks a lot for reading this and I hope you find it useful. If you have any questions or want to talk more about this or other topics just send me an email at info@thomasdixonmagic.com and I’ll get back to you.
Stay magical 😉

Some book recommendations:

Eudemonia: Happiness, Meaning and Magic

Welcome to Eudemonia!

Eudemonia is a blog of ideas related to philosophy, magic, happiness, work, virtue, purpose and other thoughts.

 

What is Eudemonia?

“Eudemonia or Eudaimonia is often translated as “happiness,” but that’s a bit misleading. Eudaimonia in Greek:
Eu-: good
Daimon: soul or “self.”
In Greek philosophy, Eudaimonia means achieving the best conditions possible for a human being, in every sense–not only happiness, but also virtue, morality, and a meaningful life. It was the ultimate goal of philosophy: to become better people—to fulfill our unique potential as human beings.”
http://philosophyterms.com/eudaimonia/

 

Why write blog?

2 reasons.
A selfish one first haha, because i like the idea of it. I’m a strong believer that self-expression, reflection and introspection its a great tool to deal with anxieties and other difficulties.
And also, if there is someone who gets anything from an idea, book recommendation or thought etc I’ll be more than happy :).

 

How is this going to help me? Is this some kind of philosophy, magic spell or religion? That’s for teachers and academics…

First when people say or think about philosophy they think of thinking thoughts and just provoking new ideas (nothing practical). But Philosophy should and was (more than 2000 years ago) a big tool to think how to have better and happier lives “a life in eudemonia”.
A philosopher was not only the one who had thoughts about life but lived by example.
There is no single way of living, and everyone has his own path, but how can we expect to have an amazing life? if we don’t even think how should it look like?

 

But who are you? why should I continue to read?

My name is Thomas and rather than telling you what I do let me tell a bit of my history and background so you can understand me.
I graduated as a Electronic Engineer 3 years ago. And most of the things I’ve learned were precise, predictable and quantifiable, I was always looking for patterns and ways to control things.
Uncertainty, lack of control and negative emotions were my biggest enemy, I fought them in order to achieve a more secure and easier life.

I had a very secured life but not happier…

The lack of control gave me lots of anxiety and stress. I was always frustrated when things didn’t go according to plan and by avoiding negative emotions I ended up with obsessive thoughts and frustration. I was living in a zombie state mode, just breathing and getting good grades.

But during my path as an engineer student I stumbled across two of my current passions: Magic and Philosophy. A video of Alan Watts a Western Philosopher known for his Oriental Philosophy books, essays and audios (Taoism, Hinduism and Zen Buddhism). It was a completely new perspective. Some ideas like: “A person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts, so he loses touch with reality and lives in a world of illusions.” “Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone”.

 

OK that sounds great, now what?

As we know, we live in a society that promotes control and its always promising a better future (vacations, finishing a project, lots of goals). So we are never engaged in what we are doing now, we don’t enjoy things for themselves and we are afraid of trying new ideas.

The objective of Eudemonia is to challenge our beliefs and ideas. Never settle, think, reflect, practice, live and reflect again, and then again live, not just think, go and do stuff!

Jump and go deep down the rabbit hole, where life is surrounded by magic, everything is new and exciting. A life where work is play, meaningless things have a purpose and in order to get IT you have to let it go.

Join me in this journey,
And see you next next time 😀

“The purpose of life
Is a life of purpose.”
Robin Sharma

Video of Alan Watts – The Dream of Life – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wU0PYcCsL6o&t=16s